7 Ways To Truly Love Yourself
We can be so engrossed by the idea of being ‘in love’ with someone else that we often forget how to truly love ourselves first. Before falling in love with someone, don’t you think it’s necessary to be clear on what you like, want, and what makes you happy? We cannot love someone wholeheartedly if we do not know how to love ourselves first.
Your life is a canvas. Where you get to create anything you want with any color you want, you get to do it with only things you want to do it with, what you want the canvas to look like, and how you want to do it. Therefore, anyone who comes in and adds their colors creates more opportunities. So here are some tips while starting or if you’re already on your self-love journey:
Self- validation
Self-validation is all about finding comfort without external sources (i.e a significant other, fans, social media, etc.). Become self-aware, drop the perfectionism and comparisons so you can accept all of who you are. Embrace your quirks, talents, and idiosyncrasies as unique expressions of your authentic self. Celebrate your individuality and cultivate self-expression through creative outlets such as art, music, or writing.
Acceptance Is Key
We all have a past that most of us have some regrets about. Within that past, punishing yourself multiple times for one mistake is abuse. Forgive yourself as you forgive others. Why keep the past in the present when you have the opportunity to build what’s ahead? The past, good or bad keeps us stuck, the present gives us peace and the future lets us create. Sis accept what already happened, give it the love and kindness it needs. Take it day by day in the present and get excited planning what you want to start happening in your life so you don’t repeat what you don’t like about your past.
Support Is Fundamental
Surround yourself with supportive friends, mentors, and communities that celebrate and encourage your authentic self-expression. Seek out relationships and social circles where you feel accepted, valued, and understood for who you truly are. Join groups that support your passions and hobbies.
Be Kind Unwind
A pamper day is bliss. Daily mindfulness is bliss. Practicing gratitude and affirmations is bliss. I don’t care if you are a wife, mom, executive, or whatever gives you an excuse to not show yourself some much-needed “me time.” Self-care is all about doing something solo that gives you that sigh of relief or a grounded feeling. You should feel reset and refreshed.
Date Yourself
Sometimes women don’t know what we want or like or even how to date. If this is true how are you supposed to be able to express what you want or how you want to be treated if you don’t even know? It’ll be weird at first but if you can’t be solo dolo then there’s a bigger issue at hand. So when there’s a movie you want to see or a new restaurant you want to try guess what? Get dressed like you would for a date night to this place and take yourself. If you want flowers send them to yourself. Ask yourself what would you want to do for dates or with your significant other and go do it.
Be Gentle
Be gentle and kind to yourself, especially during times of self-doubt or insecurity. Treat yourself with the same love and compassion you would offer to a close friend, and practice self-care rituals that nourish your body, mind, and soul.
Self-love isn’t a sprint it’s a marathon. However, once you know what it feels like you never feel disrespected, taken advantage of, or desperate for it externally. You will attract people you love having in your space, and you feel satisfied at all times, with clarity, peace, and happiness. When you don’t you can feel it and quickly find your way back to your inner harmony. Grab More Love, Less BS Workbook to guide you through this journey!
